It's hard to say those three simple words. For most men it starts off
as a suspicion ("Holy f*ck. Do I love this girl?") then it grows to
certainty, then to anxiety about how and when to say it, and whether the
woman might feel the same way. Even if your guy has a hunch that you
love him too, it's nerve-
wracking to be the first one to say "I love
you."
Plus there's the pressure of getting it "right." He wants to a best date ever, have a sweet speech
ready, and as soon as you say it back the previously inactive fountain
comes to life and shoots beautiful streams of water into the air as you
kiss. That's what the movies make us think this moment should be, and
most men know it won't be that, so they avoid the actual act of saying
these words longer than is needed or comfortable. Here are six signs
that he's gearing up to finally tell you that he loves you.
He Talks Around It
Even if the setting is perfect and he's been meaning to say it it's
still hard to get those exact words out: "I love you." Sometimes a guy
will talk around it in a million other ways. For example, he'll start
with the word "I," squeeze you tight, make a soft noise and then say
"you." Or "I [insert sweet, knowing look] you." It's like we need to
test the water to see if you'll please (please!) say it first. This is
the I'm-going-to-open-the-door thing they do , where they make it so clear
they want to say it but don't actually do so.
He is Being a Creeper
Speaking of looks, you will know your guy is getting ready to say it
because you will be getting ready for a night out, or working away
across the desk from him, and look up and he will be staring at you like
a creeper, a slight smile playing across his face. He's admiring you,
and inwardly copping to the fact that he does indeed love you, and you
just caught him in the act of doing so.
He Has a Recurring Thing for You
Sometimes a man will express that he loves you in simple gestures. He
will develop a little thing he does regularly so you know he cares. This
could be flowers for no reason, or leaving a little mint on your pillow
for when you wake up in the morning, or always having your favorite
drink ready when you come over. These simple, routine gestures are a way
of him relaxing into the relationship. He is building out a life with
you, getting into sweet habits that he hopes to maintain for years to
come. Even if he hasn't acknowledged that he's in love with you, he's
showing it all the time by these little recurring signals.
He Keeps Your Stuff Around
In the same vein, he has your stuff at his place. Either it's the stuff
you've left there, like your hair dryer, or stuff he has specifically
purchased for you - perhaps a toothbrush, your favorite tea, or a type
of wine you like. He wants you around all the time, and is building out
his personal space to accommodate and invite you in.
He Has a Million Inside Jokes With You
If he keeps bringing up certain inside jokes, about a horrible movie you
watched together, or something your mom always says, or a funny thing
you saw in the streets, it's because he is gearing up to tell you I love
you. He's laying the groundwork for a certain familiarity, building out
a way of life and things you both care about, so as to establish a
basis where a big admission like "I love you" wouldn't be so out of
place.
He Makes Big Date Plans
Have you been going out to more expensive dinners than normal? Has he
invited you to fancy cocktails at a swanky hotel bar? Followed those
sorts of things up with long strolls through any parks? Yeah, he's on
the verge of telling you that he loves you. In fact, if you've had a few
of those sorts of dates lately he likely tried to get up the nerve to
say it then failed.
He's looking for the right time to
say it, but felt it hasn't been natural to do so yet. After a few of
those big dates don't be surprised if he just blurts it out some time
while looking at old photos on his couch. It may not be the most
romantic story to tell later, but he simply couldn't hold it in any
longer.
By
Lodro Rinzler
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