Do you need chemistry for a successful relationship?

No, but don’t fool yourself  thinking you will learn to love someone. Yes, it’s possible; but if you aren’t attracted to him or her, you may come to resent your decision. Just be honest with yourself; don't choose a relationship primarily because “she’s a good person or he's a good person.” (Sentiments) This is a formula for disaster.

If the attraction isn’t there can it grow?

Many people grow to love one another as they get to know each other better because it’s unconscious. Searching for chemistry in a relationship is a hit and miss proposition. You can find it, but you’ll have to be patient. How will you even know you’ve found it? You won’t be arguing with yourself whether or not you love him or her. If it’s a debate, then either the chemistry is missing or he or she is a poor partner for you.

Once found, you still have to be patient sef  – or you may make a mistake you’ll deeply regret. Chemistry isn’t all it appears to be.Feeling deeply attracted to someone can be a result of childhood issues you’re unaware of or haven’t resolved. A big red flag is when you see a problem in your partner and you tell yourself things like, “This isn’t such a big deal; I can handle this,” or “I know he has a problem, but he’s working on it,” or “He really loves me; I’m sure we’ll work it out.” Ignore these problems now and you’ll have much bigger ones to contend with later.

If you’ve made it past these hurdles, you have one more challenge: The test of time.

Chemistry is nothing personal.  It’s not you; it’s not me, it’s just chemistry.  And anyway every chemical has its pairing, so don’t worry, we’ll all find our chemical bond lol .

True chemistry is often something that you know pretty much right away when you've spent a few hours with someone. Once you're past the initial awkwardness you'll often find yourself bouncing off the person and laughing more than you would normally with someone you'd just met.

If you have chemistry with someone then the person is expected to be on the same wavelength with you right? .You will find that you have no problem talking to each other and you'll feel at ease with them and you'll realize that you share the same train of thought a lot of time and obviously you'll find their company fun and entertaining, and this will mean you’re laughing a lot when you are together.

What of some cases where the chemistry was once there, but you no longer feel “in love.” Or was it never there and you begin to suspect you made a big mistake. Consider this: Maybe the real issue isn’t the lack of chemistry but some other problems you didn't identify.

No doubt chemistry is an emotional desire for a relationship.With it, you may be attracted to someone you know, intellectually, is not good for you. Without it, you may be with someone you respect but are not attracted to. At best, you can have both chemistry and love; at worst, you may have chemistry and misery or no chemistry and misery.

Regardless whats your definition, chemistry is unconscious; we don’t “choose” who we’re attracted to. Even so, we aren’t helpless.