Frenvy

Envy can be a hidden emotion, kept under a smile so others don't see it.The main difference between envy and jealousy is that envy is an emotion related to coveting what someone else has, while jealousy is the emotion related to fear that something you have will be taken away by someone else. 

What do you do when you sense your friend is envious of you? 

Let's look at these scenarios. Both women have close friends who are envious of them. 

In the first case, the girl in question— let’s call her Titilope —is married and currently house hunting. Titilope says she knows her friend— we’ll call her Kelechi —is jealous because whenever anything good happens to her, Kelechi gets the crazy eyes and starts shooting Titilope with death glares. Kelechi is bitter that Titilope is looking for a home, that she’s found a husband and gets along with her in-laws. Unfortunately, Kelechi’s father died recently, so she resents the fact that Titilope has a healthy and happy family. (As someone who has lost a father, I understand being jealous when you see your friends having moments with their dads. But there’s a difference between wishing you had a father and wishing someone else didn’t.) It would be one thing if Kelechi was jealous of Titilope but kept it to herself, but no. She is openly bitter, and sometimes rude, about Titilope’s good fortune.

The second scenario is similar to the first. We’ll call these ladies Bukola and Lolade. Bukola is engaged and so is Lolade. But everyone hates Lolade’s fiancée, while Bukola’s is adored. Lolade’s parents don’t get along with her inlaws, while Bukola’s parents and her in-laws have a great, healthy relationship. As with Titilope and Kelechi , Bukola knows Lolade is jealous because she is obvious about it. She makes snide jabs at Bukola’s happiness and mocks any of her good news.
What’s interesting is the different ways these ladies have handled this relationship hiccup. Since Titilope and Kelechi are in the same group of friends, Titilope has resigned herself to the knowledge that Kelechi will always be in her life. They have too many mutual friends to cut each other out. So Titilope grins and bears it.
On the other hand, Bukola has said goodbye and good riddance. Why be friends with someone who isn’t happy for your success? Sure, we’ve all had moments of frenvy.

There’s nothing worse than when a friend makes you feel guilty for your happiness. If your best friend won’t celebrate with you, who will? It’s been a while since I have found myself in this situation, but of course I remember similar issues I've had with friends and  how often my mom would say “she’s acting that way because she’s envious.” I've learned, eventually, that those weren’t real friends.

However,  if you were in Titilope or Bukola’s shoes? How would you handle it?

Some sources say “jealous” is supposed to be limited to resentful emotional rivalries (often romantic) with another person, whereas “envious” can expand to cover desiring or coveting objects or accomplishments gained by another person. Jealously can also come with an element of fear that you might lose someone. On the other hand, if you’re envious, you want what somebody else has.
Let’s look at some examples.
- See more at: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/education/grammar/jealousy-versus-envy#sthash.veBWQCMu.dpuf

Some sources say “jealous” is supposed to be limited to resentful emotional rivalries (often romantic) with another person, whereas “envious” can expand to cover desiring or coveting objects or accomplishments gained by another person. Jealously can also come with an element of fear that you might lose someone. On the other hand, if you’re envious, you want what somebody else has.
Let’s look at some examples.
- See more at: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/education/grammar/jealousy-versus-envy#sthash.veBWQCMu.dpuf

Some sources say “jealous” is supposed to be limited to resentful emotional rivalries (often romantic) with another person, whereas “envious” can expand to cover desiring or coveting objects or accomplishments gained by another person. Jealously can also come with an element of fear that you might lose someone. On the other hand, if you’re envious, you want what somebody else has.
Let’s look at some examples.
- See more at: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/education/grammar/jealousy-versus-envy#sthash.veBWQCMu.dpuf

Some sources say “jealous” is supposed to be limited to resentful emotional rivalries (often romantic) with another person, whereas “envious” can expand to cover desiring or coveting objects or accomplishments gained by another person. Jealously can also come with an element of fear that you might lose someone. On the other hand, if you’re envious, you want what somebody else has.
Let’s look at some examples.
- See more at: http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/education/grammar/jealousy-versus-envy#sthash.veBWQCMu.dpuf